My children look forward to our meeting where we spend time talking together. Everyone has a voice, even the little ones, and it has been enlightening for us as parents to hear how our children feel and think about certain topics. We have resolved issues that previously seemed insurmountable. The resolutions stick since the kids are the ones making them and everyone agrees on them.
I keep a small binder on the kitchen counter that holds our past family council agendas with the topics we've discussed and the decisions we've made. If there is ever a question, I can flip to where a decision was made and everyone is satisfied.
On the first page there is a place where the children can list any concerns they may have. This allows involved parties to cool off a bit and usually by the time we discuss it, the offended child has often lost interest. As a mom, I don't get as frustrated with problems in the home since I know I can bring up topics for discussion in family council (a.k.a. an environment where everyone is listening and ready to participate!).
My son even came up with a great idea all on his own and presented it to the family council. By great I mean an adult-like, self-governing sort of idea that makes me want to jump for joy!
All in favor?
Aye, Aye, Aye!!
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