by Gary Chapman with me. Wow! Basically Chapman explains that there are five basic ways we communicate love to others: Acts of Service, Words of Affirmation, Receiving Gifts, Physical Touch and Quality Time. Each one of us feels most loved by at least one of these ways; Chapman calls it our primary love language. For example, my primary love language is Words of Affirmation. I feel most loved when showered with compliments and praises (feel free to leave any in the comments section ; )We tend to (but not always) express love to others in our primary love language. This is great if everyone around us shares the same love language but if not we need to learn to speak a new language!
I am amazed at the difference knowing and speaking my husband's love language has made in a matter of days. We already have a pretty healthy, happy marriage but it has only gotten better!
Naturally I began thinking about my other loved ones, especially my children. I remember growing up often feeling like my "love tank" was on empty. I realize now that I'm older that my parents love me very much but they spoke their own love language, not mine. I explained the five love languages to my big kids separately and we discussed what their primary love language might be. I was enlightened by their comments and insights. (I haven't read it yet but there is a book specifically about children called The Five Love Languages of Children
by the same author.)I have the opportunity to identify, learn and speak my children's primary love languages. Hopefully I can help to fill their tanks to overflowing!
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